Remember that your kids are valuable because they are made in the image of God, not because of their performance.
In our families, we can become so consumed with good grades, proper behavior, or how our kids reflect on us, that we can fail to love and accept our children just as they are. They are far more important than straight A’s or making the football team. Do they know this?
Do we praise our children when they do right? Do we share their success with others? I don’t mean we should brag obnoxiously, but our children should know we are proud of them.
Use positive words.
Do our kids hear us complain about what it’s like to be a mom? Do we constantly talk about the sleepless nights and discipline troubles? Or do they hear us talk with joy about what we do? Yes, it can be hard. But it is also one of the most amazing and rewarding jobs in the world. Do we talk this way around our children?
Don’t be critical.
Don’t have a critical spirit toward other people. If your children hear you constantly criticizing others, they will lose trust in you as they realize that it’s just a matter of time before that criticism is turned on them.
Be quick to make things right.
Tell your kids when you mess up. They already know. Seek their forgiveness. Nothing is more attractive than humility.
When it comes right down to it, becoming “charismatic” in the context of our families this is simply following the golden rule: treating our children the way we want to be treated.
How are you treating your kids today?