Here’s the thing.
Biblically, I know that we live in a broken world.
I believe that in a perfect world, every person would be able to fully care for as many children as they could biologically produce.
In a perfect world there would be no pain or sickness, no conditions that require intense times of special care (of children or parents), unlimited energy, time, emotional resources, finances, mental resources, food, and help.
But we don’t live in a perfect world. Sin and Satan have conspired to break everything good.
In light of the fact that God does not condemn birth control, and that we live in a broken world where sometimes people are too sick or exhausted or poor to care for another child, I still don’t believe it’s an easy decision.
To me, it’s choosing the better of two bad options, the only options given us on this sin-shattered planet.
One is to disallow the life of another human being in order to steward the resources God has provided us for those children He’s already given.
The other is to have more children, realizing that it may be difficult to adequately care for them (financially, emotionally, or in some other way).
Yet I have to know that God sees our hearts, and that we can be blameless if our hearts are right before Him. Do we seek Him? Do we have His heart toward children? Do we view them as a blessing or a curse (both those we have and those we might conceive)? Do we have children, or not, according to His directive? Are we willing to do whatever He asks us to do, whether it’s to have more children or not?
These are questions and thoughts I struggle with. I wish there were an easy answer, a solution at the snap of our fingers. But there’s not. It comes back to our relationship with the Author of life.
And seeking God brings peace. Following Him brings peace. Obedience brings peace.
In peace, we can rest.
Look for my eBook, Fearless Mothering, this fall!
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Reviving Motherhood (@RevivingM) August 20, 2012