Today on Mentor Monday, I want to share what Edith Schaeffer says about this in her book, What is a Family?
Here she tells us how to avoid this relationship loss.
A child needs to grow up knowing that love never faileth, that not only will Dad and Mom stay together in spite of each of their weaknesses as well as strengths, but that the door will always be open, the “candle in the window” will never go out. Love doesn’t say, “If you ever do that again, never come home.” Love never faileth. Love keeps that door open, the light waiting, and dinner in the oven–for years. This is the love a family demonstrates in its formation center.
Can human love be perfect? No, but it is meant to be worked at through the years, and it is meant to portray something, within the family, of the love of God for His Family of children. “The Lord hath appeared of old unto me, saying, Yea, I have loved thee with an everlasting love: therefore with loving-kindness have I drawn thee” (Jeremiah 31:3). The loving-kindness of God toward us has been demonstrated not when we were being good, but in that, while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us. Then how can an earthly father or mother demonstrate love to children by saying such things as: “Unless you are good, I won’t love you”–“If you sleep with a girl [marry that person, have a baby, get into drugs], the door is shut forever to you. Don’t ever darken my door again!”?
…the “never failing” is meant to go on during our time in the land of the living.
~Edith Schaffer, What is a Family?