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What to do When You Don’t Have a Valentine


Another one for my younger and single friends…

I didn’t date as a teen, so I know what it is like to have one Valentine’s Day after another without—well—a valentine.

Actually, Valentine’s Day has become one of my favorite holidays, but not because of the romance.  To tell you the truth, that is not the best part of the holiday for me.  Couples put each other under so much pressure to create that amazing romantic experience on Valentine’s Day and it is just too much.  Billy and I usually keep it simple.  I like it better that way.

But the colors…hearts…cards…flowers…I love those things about Valentine’s Day.  Oh, and chocolate!

There is so much to enjoy about this holiday even if you don’t have a sweetheart in your life right now!  Here are a few little ways to give yourself a wonderful Valentine’s Day!

Remember, Jesus loves you.  He is the one who will never leave you or forsake you for any reason, and who loves you without conditions of any kind!  How is that for a great Valentine!

Treat yourself.  Who needs a boyfriend to enjoy decadent chocolate, jewelry, or flowers?  Buy it for yourself!  I am not into the whole “love yourself” movement too much, but at risk of sounding cliché, you are worth it!  God adores you, he created you to be a unique, wonderful person, so act like it and enjoy some of his good gifts!

Pray for your future husband.  What could possibly be more important as you prepare for your future?

Write a love letter to your future husband.  God has someone planned for you.  Write a letter to him.

Go out for a nice dinner with unattached friends.  Find other friends who don’t have a date and have a wonderful time together!  You might do this on the day before or after Valentine’s Day to avoid the horrific restaurant crowds.

Throw a Valentine party!  Valentine parties don’t have to just be for elementary school people!

Send Valentines to elderly widows and widowers.  They can use some extra love too.

Spend Valentine’s Day doing random acts of kindness.  Spread the love!  Valentine’s Day is about love, right?

Pamper yourself.  This is not to be confused with treating yourself.  A bubble bath, candles, music, and a good book sounds nice!  What about fluffy pajamas, ice cream, and a great movie?  A pedicure or massage?  Not just an ordinary experience, but something extra special.

Take a younger girl under your wing.  Do something fun with a younger girl, especially if she is a little bummed about not having a valentine either.  Show her that you don’t have to have a valentine to have a wonderful Valentine’s Day!


2 thoughts on “What to do When You Don’t Have a Valentine

  1. Hubs and I purposely celebrate valentine’s day before or after the actual day so our family can spend that day loving others…especially those who are lonely or hurting. Remembering that God wants us to love one another, not just receive love, is so important! Great post, friend!

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