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Behavior Issues Can be Caused by Food

I was so happy to see this excellent article that discusses the link between food sensitivities and behavior.  It seems that behavior issues often come to the forefront when school starts, which for some of us is in just a couple weeks.

If your child is hyper, excessively aggressive or whiny, belligerent or mean without cause, has trouble focusing or listening, or has unexplained outbursts, please look into food allergies AND/OR sensitivities.  Learning what our child is sensitive to turned our lives around!

Related post: Challenges


What’s at the Center?

I’m a student of parenting methods.  I’ve seen a lot of slogans and philosophies and parenting theories.

“Dare to shelter.”

“Character first.”

“Parent-centered home.”

“Home-centered life.”

“Break the will, but not the spirit.”

“First time obedience.”

“Family-centered faith.”

“Biblical child training.”

I’ve heard that parents should teach their children the godly response to any situation, and the heart will follow.  I’ve heard that training children is a simple as training a dog—provide enough negative stimuli, ambush and outlast for character flaws, and the child will learn to obey.  I’ve heard that “biblical chastisement” will absolve the child of his sins before he comes to personal salvation.  I’ve heard that the Christian parents who train their children to obey them will raise children who know how to obey God.  I’ve heard that if you are consistent in your training, you will have a new child in 3 days.  I’ve heard from child-training gurus that if their method is not working, you are doing something wrong—and that if they were in your home for 5 minutes they could tell you what it is.  I’ve heard that if you shelter your children from knowing about evil, they will automatically be shocked by it.  I’ve heard that if you protect them from ungodliness and negative influences, they won’t be led astray.  I’ve heard that the goal of Christian parenting is good character.  (I’m not pointing to any one teacher or philosophy—this is a mix of a lot of different ones I’ve encountered.)

I’m no expert and I haven’t finished raising my children.  I am still forming my ideas about child-rearing and I’m hesitant to write with any authority until I see if my children turn out as I hope.

But I have observed parenting methods for a long time, and I’ve watched the fruit of these methods for many years.  I’m seeing rotten fruit, a lot of shockingly rotten fruit from families who claimed to know how to raise godly families, even some who set themselves up as experts and taught others how.

After mulling this over for a long time, I’ve come to believe that the commonality in all these philosophies is that something other than Christ, His cross, and the transforming, redemptive power of the Gospel is at the center.  I’m not saying that these philosophies don’t include the Gospel.  I’m not saying that the families who implement these strategies don’t teach the Gospel.  I’m not saying that those who embrace these ideas are not Christians, even very dedicated, loving Christians.  And I know that by the grace of God, some really good kids come out of families who embrace these teachings.  But the foundational belief is that something other than Christ can make us and our children good—training, sheltering, family, the right kind of church, or something else.  At their foundations is the terrible sin of unbelief. The Gospel is not enough.  We must put our hope, the hope for our children, in something else.  It may sound like splitting hairs—but as my pastor says, it’s an important splitting of hairs.

I say with deep humility—I don’t think it’s an exaggeration to even say “fear and trembling”– that my goal is not to have a parent-centered home, a family-centered faith, or perfectly trained children.  My goal is to have a Christ-centered home, and a Cross-centered faith, and to guide my children to surrender their wills to Jesus Who can transform their hearts and make them good.  Sure, I want well-behaved, obedient kids.  I want a strong family.  I want something different for my children than the status quo.  I want them to have strong character.  I thank God that I’m in a church with many members who have hearts for Jesus and their families.  But that’s not what will save my children, and it’s not where my hope should lie.

I don’t express this lightly.  As I’ve watched these “philosophy trees” mature and bear a pitiful harvest, I’ve had a major shake-up in my own heart.  I’ve fallen prey to some of these off-center ideas myself.  In addition, I’ve been guilty of being “housework centered,”  “childbearing centered,” “daily grind centered,” or “interest centered.”  My husband is such a precious example of Christ-centeredness, but having one parent with a right heart is not enough to make a Christ-centered home.  I’ve had to repent. Far, far too often my life has not been Christ-centered.  And if I am not Christ-centered, then my home will not be Christ-centered.  My family will not be Christ-centered.  I won’t be an example to my children of a heart and life fully surrendered to Jesus and one that glories in the sacrifice of the Cross, a life that’s constantly becoming more like the Savior whom I love and to whom I surrender daily.  I can be a good mother, a consistent disciplinarian, an excellent educator, and devoutly religious—but without JESUS HIMSELF at the center of my family and my mothering, I’m building on a faulty foundation.

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Veggie Wraps

I’m sure this isn’t a new idea, but I threw this together for lunch today and I think it’s my new go-to lunch–at least till I get tired of it.


A little bit of cream cheese spread


Cucumber chunks

Black olives

Bell pepper strips

A sprinkling of crispy almonds

Roll it all up!

You could actually use any veggies you like (I’m thinking sprouts would be soooo good), mayo instead of cream cheese, add meats or cheeses, etc.  Simple and yummy!


Pregnancy Diet

My sister and I were talking about the best foods to eat during pregnancy and she shared what her midwife (who’s delivered somewhere around 1,200 babies) told her.  I found it helpful, since I’ve never ever had a doctor give me any kind of nutritional info throughout my 4 pregnancies.  (And yeah, I’m officially jealous that she gets to have a midwife!)

The midwife recommends unlimited fruits and veggies and 75-100 grams of protein daily.  She does not encourage severely limiting any food group, but if weight is an issues it’s permissible to cut back on carbs.

Just thought this might be helpful to others–it was to me.

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I’m Back!

Hi ladies, I think my hiatus is over.  I’ve really missed blogging and there are so many thoughts in my head that I need to express!  Life is just busy for me,  so I don’t know how often I’ll post.  I’m not going to let myself feel pressured over it.  I’ll probably post more light, practical, and fun things in addition to helpful links, and when I have time for a more profound post, I’ll add that as well.  It’s good to be back!